My college roommate, Niels Hoven, sent me an article today about Small Talk. It was entitled: “The Rich Resonance of Small Talk: A Primer on The Fine, and Undervalued, Art of Chitchat” By Roxanne Roberts It listed the three golden rules of making small talk:
1. Shut up and listen.
2. When in doubt, repeat Rule 1.
3. People, even the really shy ones, like to talk about themselves and will do so if you know how to draw them out.
You have to be genuinely interested. You have to check your ego. If this is done right, they walk away thinking you’re great. Which, I happen to agree with, but rarely follow. It’s always harder than I think to not interject my own stories and advice into a conversation.