I’ve been mulling over a few questions today as I’m sitting in my office and thinking about the beautiful weather outside. Am I being ungrateful? After all, I’m getting paid well to be here, and I really can’t justify it by thinking I “deserve it.” Does the fact that I want more, mean that I’m ungrateful for what I have?
I was talking with some friends last night and we were talking about something similar, and I think I solidified my take on this. I think there is a difference between being grateful for the opportunities in your life, and using dissatisfaction to motivate you and create new opportunities.
One of the things I find remarkable about my position, that is different than many people I know, is that I am able to see beyond money. When I was young, I let my parents think about money, and I did both what I was told (I should do), and outside of that, I did what I wanted. Now, I have financial responsibility, since I support myself, but I have no one telling me that I have to do this and that. (Actually, I have tons of people telling me I should do this and that, but now I have the ability to nod politely, and then do what I want.)
What I’m grateful for, is that because I have a high paying job, it allows me to not worry about money. I honestly don’t think about it very much at all. I don’t have loads, but I live well under my means, and that leaves a comforting buffer. This is a luxury most people don’t have. Worrying about money is mentally limiting when you think about your future and what your possiblities are. Alleviating myself from that is an amazing luxury.
Now, that said, I know lots of people who earn as much and more than I do, but don’t have this freedom. That makes me think. I think many people have the ability to “see beyond money,” but admittedly,… its much harder for those who have less of it.
Now lets see, how do I define that? “Seeing Beyond Money.” To me, it means letting go of the need to worry about money for long enough to think about what you want if money wasn’t a concept. Now actually going after it, and taking the plunge is much harder. But I think most people are stopped by their thinking and their beliefs.
What would you do, if money wasn’t a concern? What are the real reasons for why you are not doing that? For some, its security. I think I’m starting to let go of this… I’m okay with the fact that I don’t have solid plans as to what I will do when I’m done traveling.
Actually, I don’t think I’ve solidified my position on this at all. But this is a start. I definitely feel that I’m not being ungrateful by wanting more than this high paying job. I do think that the ability to want more than this job, is a luxury of someone who has their basic needs taken care of. But, in a way… by not making the most of my good fortune, wouldn’t my life be an insult to those not as fortunate?
“To give anything less than your best, is to sacrifice the gift.” – Steve Prefontaine